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Caring for someone who's lonely

If you look after someone who you think might be struggling with feelings of loneliness, let us help you find the best way to support them.


Why might someone be feeling lonely?

There are many reasons why someone might be feeling lonely. Or that might be no clear reason for why they’re feeling the way they are. A change in their circumstances is likely to cause feelings of loneliness, such as:

  • losing a loved one
  • moving away from friends and family
  • losing the social contact and enjoyment they used to get from work
  • experiencing health problems that make it difficult for them to go out and do the things they enjoy.

But there may not be a reason at all. Someone can still feel lonely despite being surrounded by friends and family.


How can you tell if someone is feeling lonely?

It can be really difficult for anyone to admit they’re feeling lonely and it can be even harder to ask for help. Pride and independence are important for a lot of us, but these things can feel even more important as we get older. We all go through ups and downs, which can make it difficult to spot a longer-term problem. But there are some clues that could indicate a person is feeling lonely, these include someone:

  • having a significant change in their routine (e.g. getting up a lot later)
  • neglecting their appearance or personal hygiene
  • not eating properly
  • putting themselves down
  • not being themselves.

You may spot signs that someone is lonely before the person you care about does or before they are able to talk about it. 

Or you may find it hard to admit that you think someone you care about is lonely. You might not want to think of them as feeling low or you might feel guilty. But recognising someone is lonely can help you start to help them.

Patricia's story

Patricia talks about how her life changed when she fell ill and how the ϲֱ쿪 befriending service helped get her back on track.


What can I do to help?

Some people may be aware they're lonely, but just not know what they can about it. If you suspect someone you know may be lonely, you can help by:

  • Being there. Simply being there for them can let them know that someone cares. Don't be afraid to ask them how they are feeling or if there's anything you can do to help. Having someone who is willing to listen could be a great comfort.
  • Being patient. When someone's lonely, particularly if it's associated with poor mental health or physical health, they may get irritable or feel misunderstood by others. You may need to offer gentle assurance.
  • Encouraging and supporting them. Reassure them that it's possible to feel better with the right help. They may need some support to make new social connections or access services designed to tackle loneliness.

It may be helpful if you point them in the direction of our befriending services, such as ϲֱ쿪's Telephone Friendship Service and face-to-face befriending at local ϲֱ쿪s.

If you know someone who is lonely, contact your local ϲֱ쿪 for support.

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Looking after yourself

When you’re caring for someone it’s easy to overlook your own needs. But looking after yourself is important and can help you manage better with your caring role.

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Last updated: Jun 08 2023

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